We celebrated MC's birthday party last Friday. We didnt know it would end with a dilemma.
It started well enough. She helped with the decoration and even helped pack her party loots (see the small packages).
And then her friends came one by one. As our tradition, we started off the party with a game of spin the bottle -- this time, the bottle would pick the first one to give MC her gift and it would be opened for everyone to see. Until everyone had their turn. Usually, I would be there to help them. But this time, they said, they are all old enough. So I left them alone.
And then when everbody's done, they wanted to try the game 'Uno.' Here is where the day started became sour for MC. As she said, nobody wanted to listen to her explaining the game. She left he friends and banged her door, crying. Papa came to the rescue and talked to her. But at this time, another friend of her was already feeling agitated as she said, everybody's becoming so loud. Well, I told her, there are almost ten children here and everybody just wanted to talk and nobody wanted to listen. And I reminded them that as MC is the birthday girl, she would have to be listened to as she would run the program for this day.
So to clear the air, we went down to my made-in-30-minutes pinata. I simply took a box and wrapped it gaily and hang some ribbons to make it look a bit more cheerful. The kids had fun but before the pinata is over, the kids started to argue with each other again. That made MC sour and she run, crying to her Papa again.
We tried to distract the kids by playing more games with them and of course, by giving them their dinner of spaghetti (with sauce and without sauce). Only spaghetti. They were too excited to open their loots that most of them didnt eat much. I guess we need to keep the loots until the end of the party, as we usually do, next time.
And then there were more games. And there were more arguments. I dont really know. I was really getting frustrated with what's happening and MC, too.
The thing is, even as the party progressed, we discovered one of MC's school folder stuffed in the garbage bin. I was really surprised, more shocked, to find it there. What if my husband didnt find it there (he lost something and decided to look into the garbage bin)? Something so important isnt to be played with.
Who would have thought to rummage into MC's school bag while the party is going on? Who would have the gal to take that school folder and stuff it into the garbage bin? Just because they were arguing over something? I couldnt believe one of these young kids could do that. And to be frank, I also discovered the culprit. The guilty mouth itself admitted to me, though I am sure it wasnt meant to be said.
MC wasnt enjoying anymore, the last straw was knowing what happened to her school folder. She voiced it out with saying 'I dont want to a birthday party anymore!' Well, I could understand her.
We didnt tell everybody about her school folder and we dont plan to tell her who did it. I wonder though how I should deal with the culprit? Should I talk to the culprit first and tell the parents later? Or should I inform the parents first? I think what happened was very, very bad. For some one as young to have done something like that.
I need to do something about it as this is someone who is very close to MC. I dont want to start turning down the requests to visit us just because we havent cleared this issue. And I think the culprit should know that what was done is very wrong.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?