We were getting ready to bed when I found something lying on the floor, in between the girls' toy boxes; it was a pair of pearl earring from me!
I already know who the culprit is, MC, who a day before rummaged into my jewelry box without my permission. I told her to bring the pair of earrings back and to never go through my things without permission. Well, she said she did and I believed her.
And last night, I learned the truth. She lied to me. She simply left the pair of earrings on the toy box, in the middle of their toys! I lost my temper. I told her to find the other pair of earring or else she would have to spend the night looking for it.
Well, I was really angry that in a few minutes, I told her to leave me alone to look for it. I wanted to calm down and at the same time, try to find the other pair. I found the earring, at the same time that I realized I was not angry because of the lost pair of earring but because I just discovered that MC didnt tell me the truth. And how it hurt!
MC came to me just as this realization slowly dawned on me. So I gave her a hug and told her that I was not angry because of the possible loss of the earring but because she lied to me. I told her it didnt feel good knowing that I trusted her to do the right thing; and yet she did another.
I asked her: 'Was telling a lie worth it?' She simply shook her head. I asked her to try to be truthful. I encouraged her to tell me the truth even if the truth would hurt, even if the truth would mean showing me a broken toy or a messy room; and if the truth would be too hard to say, she could always show me.
And yet I also tried to explain to her that pointing out and laughing at other's faces just because they look different is also not good. I hope she understand the difference between telling the truth and being subtle. Oh, but we could talk more about it later.
I simply have to share this because sometimes, we tend to focus on the material loss; before really knowing where the real feeling is coming from. I made a mistake by yelling at her for lying to me; but I apologized, as she did when everything became clearer to her, too. You see, material things could be replaced, but the hurt in my little girl's heart might be too deep to repair. I hope MC's heart would mend well this time. Or else I would need to offer to her that pair of earrings as a gift :)